We are all susceptible to the negative influences of others and we must protect ourselfs. Negativity strikes in many forms. You can catch it. If someone around you is negative and complains a lot, you may soon find yourself griping and complaining as well. Or you may find yourself feeling disappointed about life. It’s possible that you may even become depressed. You may start to doubt your abilities and give up on your dreams. Negativity often comes disguised as “good advice” or “realistic objectivity.” When people who care about you discourage you or point out what is wrong with your ideas, it’s usually because they are trying to protect you from being hurt. They don’t understand the negative result of their good intentions.
You must realize these seemingly caring words of caution from your family and friends are actually negative influences that work through your subconscious. They trigger old feelings of insecurity and doubt. You will need to protect yourself by building up your “emotional immune system.” Stay away from people who are habitually negative, no matter how well intended they seem. Build up relationships with people who are positive, supportive, and inspiring. Learn to deal with criticism. Listen, evaluate the source and accuracy, and then respond. Don’t accept it, avoid it, ignore it, or attempt to defend yourself against it. Your best response is, “I’ll take that into consideration.” If you buy into their negativity, you are likely to stay stuck exactly where you are or even end up in worse circumstances. Consider whether or not there are any constructive ideas in what they say which will help you improve your life and let the rest go.
Are you willing to do this?
