Many people believe that all they need to solve their problems in life is a solid relationship. They convince themselves that once they’re in a solid romance, they will be able to navigate the world much more efficiently.

And then the moment they find themselves in the relationship they believed would fix everything, they still feel empty inside. This person is a good match. They tick all of your boxes. So, why do you feel so empty?

Feeling Empty Inside

It will take time and self-reflection to figure out why you feel empty despite being in a seemingly happy relationship. The reality is that people who feel empty inside feel that way for different reasons. There could be more than one issue, there could be several issues at play. To get to the root of the problem, you need to turn your magnifying glass on yourself. You need to look at the potential reasons for it.

It could be solely down to relationship difficulties. But it could also be the lingering effects of trauma you experienced in your past. Whether you deal with abandonment issues as a result of childhood trauma.

Or, you have been in an abusive relationship and struggle to trust because of it. Depression is another common cause of feeling empty inside. People associate depression with a feeling of sadness, but a lot of people who deal with depression would exchange a feeling of sadness for the emptiness they feel.

Let’s assume the issue is with relationship difficulties whether it’s a romantic relationship or otherwise. Everything is good on paper, so why do you still feel empty?

You may feel empty because of difficulties in your relationship. If your relationship is long-term, you may have a shared history of conflict with your partner. Certain couples are prone to arguing and bickering and that can result in a feeling of dissatisfaction.

Relationships aren’t perfect, and most couples argue from time to time. But a significant relationship issue could be leaving you feeling empty. You may feel unfulfilled with your relationship, you might feel numb. How can you continue if you believe it is your relationship problems that are causing your feeling of emptiness?

If both of you are willing to work on those problems, and you still love each other, then you may be able to fix these problems. There are a wide range of issues couples face, read below to see if you can identify your biggest difficulty.

The Wrong Fit

Do you ever wonder if your partner is truly the right fit for you? Do you have doubts about your relationship? Ultimately, not every relationship is a permanent one. You may spend a decade together and grow apart and move on.

You might spend the rest of your lives together. It’s impossible to tell going in, especially when it seemed so right at the start. Or maybe you’re staying in the relationship because you’re terrified of being alone.

And, if you walked away from this relationship, you worry you wouldn’t find someone new. If you leaped into your relationship without finding out it was a good match, it can lead to a lot of uncertainty, which can certainly contribute to feelings of emptiness.

If you’re not compatible and it’s not something you can work out, move on. That can make you feel uneasy. The knowledge of your relationship being wrong is hard to take, especially if you’ve made plans together or made financial commitments. This could be the cause for your feelings of emptiness.

Off the Schedule

If you’re both busy people, it can be difficult to spend time together. A lot of relationship difficulties stem from a lack of quality time. If it’s because of long working hours, then you may not feel fulfilled in any aspect of your life because you are constantly working.

If this is the cause of your relationship difficulties and contributing to a feeling of emptiness inside, then you need to take steps to spend more time together. It might sound like overkill but put it on your schedule and make it happen regularly.

Passionless

Maybe you spend time together, but not like that. You might be longing for more passion. Of course, if you are struggling for time together, this can be part of the passion problem as well. Try to reignite your passion for each other by putting more effort into the romantic aspect of your relationship.

Feeling Empty With Your Partner By Your Side

What if you spend time with your partner and you still feel empty inside, even with them sitting right by your side? If your partner is present and you still feel empty, it might be a sign of a much deeper issue.

You might start to think this relationship isn’t the right fit, but you can’t jump to conclusions. A common reason for feelings of emptiness is depression. So, before you throw your relationship away, look into any other symptoms you may be experiencing that could indicate you are dealing with depression.

You may be dealing with a variety of issues all at once that are exacerbating your feelings of emptiness. So, you might need to address several different problems before you pinpoint exactly which one of them is causing you to feel the way you are feeling.

Whatever is going on, you need to be honest with yourself and try to get to the bottom of what’s going on. Look inside yourself, get in touch with your feelings, and get real. You might feel better if you talk to someone, whether it’s a skilled professional or a close, trusted friend. If you don’t feel comfortable speaking to your significant other, choose someone who knows both of you.

The point is — it’s important to take steps to address what is going on instead of simply ignoring it and hoping it will resolve itself. If you choose to speak to a professional, be sure to choose someone qualified to help you address your specific situation.

Judi Moreo is the Ultimate Achievement Coach. In addition, she is an author, an artist, a hypnotherapist, an NLP practitioner, and a television show host of “What’s Your Story?” on the WWDB-TV Network on Roku. If you would like to contact Judi, you may do so at judi@judimoreo.com