We’ve had a couple of months to live up to our New Year’s resolutions. Many of them have already been forgotten or deliberately set aside. One of the biggest reasons we don’t stick to our resolutions is that they are not attached to a purpose. Even with purpose, we don’t always get where we set out to go. If, however, we can be passionate about it, love what we are doing and do it with love, we have a greater chance of success.
If we see what we are doing as difficult, a chore or unpleasant in any way, we will likely find ways to simply not do it. We have been programmed since childhood to believe that work was not fun. School was the work we did to prepare us to be successful working adults. Our success was based on how “hard” we worked. The things we “should” do or “need” to do, must be work and not “fun.” Our lives became more about growing up, getting a job, paying bills and being “successful” than about choosing to enjoy life.
We wouldn’t choose to live out our lives in a relationship devoid of love, so why do we set ourselves up to accomplish things that hold no passion, joy or excitement for us? We’re grown up now, and can make our own choices about what we do and how and why we do it. Old habits die hard. We need to deal with the many years of being programmed to work “hard.”, but we can choose to find something to love, even about the things we simply have to do.
Losing weight, as many of us have discovered at one time or another, is not really fun. If you remember you love the way you look in your favorite skinny jeans, it’s a lot easier to turn down a second helping of mashed potatoes. Having trouble getting organized? Focus on how good it feels when you know exactly where to find things instead of all the work of sorting things out.
To do something well, to achieve the goals we set for ourselves, we must find the things we love to do. We may be good at a lot of things because we work hard, but happiness and success are not in working “hard.” They come about when we find what we love to do and do it with love.
Judi Moreo is an author, speaker, and professional mentor. To inquire about Judi’s services or products, call Turning Point International (702) 283-4567.